Having sex for first-time? Here are five things to consider
There is no set 'right time' to begin your sex life- you should explore your sexuality at your own pace, with a partner you feel comfortable with, and the way that suits you. Talking about your first sexual encounter, it's the best time for you to understand the nuances of sexual pleasure, comfort, and safety. Consider these five points before losing your virginity.
Stating the obvious here, but being ready for sex (both physically and emotionally) is the first and foremost thing to consider before getting busy under sheets. It will help you get over the nerves; plus planning is important for having the time to arrange necessary precautions for safer and enjoyable sex- like getting condoms, to avoid the risk of STIs and early pregnancy.
Hands down the most important aspect of having sex for the first time is to understand how imperative practising safe sex is for your mental and physical well-being. Condoms are usually recommended as they not only protect you from undesired/early pregnancy, but also reduce the risk of catching dreadful STIs. So, buy some in advance and keep handy. Female condoms can also be tried.
You might be so nervous that you would end up rushing things too soon in bed to 'get done' with it quickly. But, reaching orgasm shouldn't be your goal- extracting pleasure should be. And for attaining sexual pleasure, foreplay is crucial. Go slow, and indulge in kissing, touching, and whatever gets you turned on, to set the right mood for the climax- intercourse.
Not discussing is a total disaster for your sex life, no matter whether it's your first time or umpteenth. Communicate before, during, and after sex- talk about what feels good, and what does not. Bring up your fears and fetishes with your partner. It'll improve both the pleasure and your relationship. However, constant blabbering isn't needed- moaning, facial expressions, and body language can help.
It's important to take care of hygiene during and after any form of sexual activity. It is advisable to always have sex in clean, tidy surroundings. Make sure the toys (if any) are clean. Plus, remember to take a trip to the washroom after sex, to avoid risk of UTI. Additionally, a couple must use fresh underclothing, and keep wipes handy.
In the end, remember that sex is not a competition with anyone. As long as you and your partner are happy with what you are doing in bed, that's all what matters. So, be playful and try new things- above all, just have fun!
