On #WorldHeartDay, we ask you, can broken hearts heal?
What's the story
I was in school when I first fell in love. The 14-year-old me fell in love with a classmate, who, by all means, was Raj from DDLJ. But this Raj found his Simran, and I became the Mandira Bedi of that story. It was my first heartbreak. Then this ziddi dil broke again at 18, and 21, and 24 and might continue doing so! On the World Heart Day, let's talk about heartbreaks, shall we?
On lighter note
Before the judgment bench jumps in, here's my disclaimer
Before you start judging how naive can I be to treat a day as important as this and not talk about cholesterol and heart attacks, rather heartbreaks, here's my disclaimer: this piece is written in lighter note. But mind you, heartbreaks can also affect your physical and mental health, so rather talk about it. Don't believe me? Ask your doctor.
Accept it
Heartbreak is real. The heart does feel
Nobody said life is fair, right? Nobody also said heartbreaks are easier. There's a reason why they call it a heart-BREAK. It is a term used to describe anguish, grief, and crushing distress. Believe it or not, an intense heartbreak feels the same as physical pain. Heartbreaks can also lead to depression and excess release of stress hormones. That's not it. Studies suggest that people can even die of a heartbreak.
Them heart aches!
How to deal with heartbreaks?
Having a heartbreak is like killing all those butterflies in your stomach. But how does one deal with it? Who helps the pain go away? The answer is simple. You. While a lot of people try finding new love to forget the last one, trust me you, finding yourself and recreating a new you will help you. Yes, it sounds difficult but isn't impossible.
Yes, you can
If I can heal, so can you
I know, saying "create yourself" sounds unreal but trust me, it helps. I got out of my room after days and decided that I won't let depression get me like it got ChesterBe. I also decided to help those going through it. I didn't find a new love. But I found a purpose, and it healed my heart. Try it, creating oneself is 100% realistic.
Amen
The heart will beat again
Yes, heartbreaks are bad and they hurt. But they don't last forever. At the end of the day, you're alive, your real heart is functioning well. Like Sandeep Jauhar in his book 'Heart: A History' says, "More than anything, the heart wants to beat." The metaphorical one will beat and break again, too.